FW 6.6 Arousing and Maintaining a Man's Interest in You; and "Tell the Young Women"

Hello, Beautiful Homemakers!  Today's chapter in the original 1922 Fascinating Womanhood pamphlets number 6 is all about arousing and maintaining a man's interest in you.

 

 We cover the first half of Chapter 13: 

• Method of Arousing Interest, 
• What Topic Interests a Man Most, 
• Before a Man Confides, and
• Two Tendencies in Every Man's Courtship 

"When a man seems to be interested in a certain girl, for example, he is not actually interested in the girl so much as he is interested in the pleasure, the comfort, and the feeling of strength and manliness that her society gives to himself."

I didn't think to put this in the video, but in typing out that sentence I realized that this also exemplifies why so many marriages fall apart.  Most men and women aren't in it for the long haul, the ups and downs, the learning to love sacrificially and become more like Jesus.  This is actually one of God's purposes in marriage relationships! 

But if you or your husband are not committed followers of Jesus, then once a marriage partner (or a girlfriend or boyfriend) no longer supports a person's pleasure, comfort, and strength, many people move on to the next person who can best provide for these selfish desires.

If you are already married, admit that you were evaluating his ability to love you, to provide for you, to protect you, to give you children, to provide a home for you, to keep you well fed and well-clothed, and even to serve you in the ways you need to be loved.

In the same way, a man is evaluating you to provide him with sympathetic understanding, appreciation, respect, the ability to give him children, keep the house he provides for you, help feed him, help keep him well-clothed, and to care for his needs, especially his sexual needs. 

Before a man will confide in you, his innate reserve must be overcome.  He will test you to see if you will ridicule or disrespect him.  If you do, you will never become his wife.  A man only marries a woman that he is sure he can tell his confidences to, his aspirations, and that you will view his motives and himself in the most favorable way, appreciating him.  This will cause him to confide in you more, which will lead to love, as "he finally lays his heart bare before you, that you may know what manner of man he is, and that you may appreciate in every detail the subtlety, sincerity, steadfastness, and power of his manly character."

The two tendencies in every man's courtship is his tendency to go back into his shell of reserve, being afraid of ridicule and disrespect, and in the opposite direction, his tendency to confide in you, which only happens when you pass his tests.  "Whenever he expects or hopes for sympathetic interest [understanding] he should not be disappointed."  Betray your indifference to what he holds dear and he will take it personally; he won't see it as just having a different opinion.

In my video you will learn if Mrs. Clara Bryant Ford chided and ridiculed her husband for building a prototype car in a shed behind their house without a garage door to get the car out of the house shed, and learn how he finally got it out.

You will learn what George Bailey was looking for when he first called on Mary in It's a Wonderful Life.

 

At the end I read to you an essay entitled "Tell the Young Women," written by Lindsay Harold.  It can be found on the website BlessedHomemaking.com.

If you are interested in finding out what millionaires who have had successful, long-term marriages of 30+ years looked for when selecting a wife, you can read (or listen to) FW 1.10
A Woman Worthy of Being WON.

 

In the next video we will learn:

• What the Man Wants You to Appreciate
• Gazing into His Soul
• Arousing Interest through Sympathetic Understanding, and
• Mistakes that Drive Men Away. 

 

May God bless YOU as you learn to provide respect and sympathetic understanding to your special man,

Janine